The Limiting Beliefs That Women Who Stay In Bad Relationships Hold. Do You Recognise Any of Them?

Toxic-and-Sad-coupleBeliefs drive human’s choices and behaviour. Behind every action or inaction, there is a belief that has resulted in someone choosing to behave in a certain way e.g. people who believe that all men are bad usually choose to avoid having relationships with men and people who believe that they can only be complete when in a relationship will do everything in their power to remain in a relationship (even if it is an unhealthy one). You can see from the examples that underlying beliefs are the cause of people’s choices

 

There are many women out there who are wasting their lives in unhealthy relationships that make them feel bad. Many of these women do not understand why they make the choices that they do i.e. stay, even though they are making them unhappy

 

I wrote this blog to help those in difficult relationships and their friends and families to be aware of the underlying beliefs that lead women to remain in relationships that don’t work

 

Here are some really common beliefs that these women hold, which drive their behaviour. These women will only make different choices, which will make them happier, when they change their beliefs about themselves, others and relationships

 

  • Being single means that I will be lonely and even more miserable than I am now. 
  • My partner isn’t great as he is but he has the potential to be a great partner and I’m prepared to wait because I know he will change
  • In every relationship people have to compromise and this means sometimes accepting bad behaviour and feeling bad
  • I won’t be able to cope on my own
  • If I make more of an effort and behave perfectly, he will change
  • Having someone is better than having no one
  • I’m over 40 and men don’t really want women over 40, so I have to be grateful that someone is prepared to have a relationship with me. I won’t find anyone else, so this situation is better than being on my own
  • It’s important that children are raised by two parents, even though we don’t get on. The children aren’t affected by the tension between us
  • I made marriage vows and I intend to adhere to them, no matter how unhappy I am.
  • He can’t cope without me and will be hurt if I leave
  • My children will be devastated if we part, so I’m going to stay. I am ok with being unhappy if it means that my children remain happy
  • I’ve invested years in this relationship and if I leave now then it means that I will have wasted all of those years waiting for him to change
  • He had a difficult childhood and it’s not his fault that he’s mean and abusive. If I understand and look after him, then he will get better and we can have a good relationship
  • I am just drawn to bad men. I can’t help myself. There is nothing I can do about it

 

Do you recognise any of these?

 

These are just a few of the beliefs that people hold when they are in unhappy and damaging relationships. These beliefs are actually flawed and if you are in this situation there is a way of changing your perspective on any of these beliefs that mean that you can move on from the relationship

I hope this blog has helped

Emma :)

 

by Emma Staddon on January 29, 2017 · 0 comments

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